Undoing the Blame Game

We've all had that moment when something goes wrong, and in our frustration and overwhelm, we quickly look for someone or something to blame it on. Often times it's our partner, spouse, best friend, or kids, though we're not above singling out a neighbor, acquaintance, or a stranger walking down the street. While it's understandable how we fall into this habit, it gets in the way of creating the healthy, connected, and supportive relationships that we want in our lives. 

Take a moment to watch this short, humorous video by Brene Brown for some inspiration to give up the game.

You are probably a bit of a blamer - most of us are. But why should we give it up? In this witty sequel to our most watched RSA Short, inspirational thinker Brené Brown considers why we blame others, how it sabotages our relationships, and why we desperately need to move beyond this toxic behaviour.

Feeling Lonely In A Room Full of People

A few weeks ago, I tried to explain to my young daughter the concept of a phone booth. She couldn't quite understand that people used to go into a little booth, put coins in a phone, and stand there talking to someone.

Actually talking, not texting, emailing, or tweeting. A real, live connection.

She will likely never have the opportunity to experience making a simple phone call from a pay phone - she will more than likely be glued to a smartphone where she can maintain a running commentary with hundreds, if not thousands, of people, without ever using her actual voice. Something gets lost in translation though, in all those sterile written words, given life with emoticons rather than a laugh, smile, or tear. In so many ways we are more connected than we ever have been before, yet I still encounter people who feel lost, lonely, and disconnected, despite their hundreds of "friends".  

I came across this short film, which encourages us to unplug from technology for a moment and to look up and experience the connection and love that we all long for. Take a moment to watch it, and then Look Up.

'Look Up' - A spoken word film for an online generation. 'Look Up' is a lesson taught to us through a love story, in a world where we continue to find ways to make it easier for us to connect with one another, but always results in us spending more time alone.