Undoing the Blame Game

We've all had that moment when something goes wrong, and in our frustration and overwhelm, we quickly look for someone or something to blame it on. Often times it's our partner, spouse, best friend, or kids, though we're not above singling out a neighbor, acquaintance, or a stranger walking down the street. While it's understandable how we fall into this habit, it gets in the way of creating the healthy, connected, and supportive relationships that we want in our lives. 

Take a moment to watch this short, humorous video by Brene Brown for some inspiration to give up the game.

You are probably a bit of a blamer - most of us are. But why should we give it up? In this witty sequel to our most watched RSA Short, inspirational thinker Brené Brown considers why we blame others, how it sabotages our relationships, and why we desperately need to move beyond this toxic behaviour.

What is it like to be addicted?

I have worked with a lot of people over the years who have struggled with addiction, either their own or someone else's whom they love and care about. The Big Book describes addiction as "cunning, baffling, and powerful" and this description is resounding true. Caught in the grip of addiction, people can say and do things they would never imagine doing when they are healthy, sober, and grounded. Many loved ones have expressed how hurt they have felt by addiction, and their frustration of not understanding WHY someone would continue to use, when it causes so much pain to all those around them. It can feel so personal, and many believe that the addict or alcoholic is intentionally creating the misery that everyone is caught up in. 

Let me introduce you to Nuggets, who can tell you the story of addiction, and WHY, without using a single word.