Relationships
The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships with Alain de Botton
What if the first question we asked on a date were, “How are you crazy? I’m crazy like this”? Philosopher and writer Alain de Botton’s essay “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person” was, amazingly, the most-read article in The New York Times in the news-drenched year of 2016. As people and as a culture, he says, we would be much saner and happier if we reexamined our very view of love. How might our relationships be different — and better — if we understood that the real work of love is not in the falling, but in what comes after?
The Five Stages of Relationships with Leanne Clarkson
Leanne Clarkson talks about the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy which was created by Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson. This is one of the leading model of couples therapy and Leanne does an amazing job of describing some of the ways this model can be used with couples. She identifies the 5 stages of couple's development which include: 1. The honeymoon phase 2. Differentiation 3. Exploration 4. Reconnection and 5. Synergy
Am I In A Toxic Relationship? with Michelle Chalfant
Am I in a toxic relationship? I unfortunately get asked this question all too often. I find that what feels "normal" is actually toxic but due to low self esteem or loss of self, we find ourselves living in not so healthy or even unhealthy, toxic relationships In today's show I go over 6 signs of toxic relationships. I explain what to look for in toxic relationships and how to know if you are in one. I also offer next steps to heal and transform yourself out of the toxic relationship.
Experts on Experts: John Gottman
John Gottman is an American psychological researcher, an award-winning speaker, author, a professor emeritus in psychology and co-founder of the Gottman Institute. John sits down with the Armchair Expert to discuss his research on thin slicing and predicting marital success. He notes how having a daughter turned him into an instant feminist and He talks about the different ways men and women view sex. The two talk about a father's crucial role to a child, they delve into the four horsemen of the apocalypse and John urges couples to foster curiosity.
Experts on Experts: Esther Perel
Esther Perel is a Belgian author and psychotherapist. Esther sits down with the Armchair Expert to discuss the true definition of eroticism, the unrealistic expectations we put on our partners and how the status of a couple affects the whole family. She finds the current lack of sex education unacceptable and Dax wonders if Esther’s husband is intimidated by her. Esther delineates the complexities of infidelity, she insists we break societal labels and she talks about the residual effect of growing up with parents who survived the Nazi concentration camps.
Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person with Alain de Botton
Why will you marry the wrong person? One reason is that we are all flawed. Were we more self-aware, the first question we would ask someone is: “And how are you imperfect?” We don’t recognize we’re all imperfect, messy, and not always nice because we often abandon relationships before they get complicated, blaming the other for our incompatibility. If we are alone, we assume we’re easy to get along with. And our friends and family hesitate to tell us the truth about ourselves. Everyone is psychologically unhealthy to varying degrees. And typically we don’t spend enough time together exploring and understanding this before committing to another person.
Rethinking Infidelity… A Talk for Anyone Who Has Ever Loved with Esther Perel
Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.
The Secret to Desire in a Long Term Relationship with Esther Perel
In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence.
Understanding Love Addiction with Pia Mellody
An overview of love addiction and how these dynamics are created in relationships.
being our best selves
Guided meditation to connect with your functional adult self - Annie Schwain
Conversations With Alanis Morrisette - Pia Mellody Interview
In this episode, Alanis talks with Pia Mellody about codependence and addiction recovery as well as parenting and creating functional relationships
The Power of Vulnerability with Brené Brown
Brené Brown studies human connection -- our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity.
The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self-Compassion with Kristin Neff
When we focus on self-esteem, we are asking ourselves, “How am I different from others?”. To feel good, we puff ourselves up by putting others down and use self-criticism as a motivational tactic. On the other hand, when we turn our focus to self compassion, we ask, “How am I the same as others?”. Here, we embrace ourselves as we are through self kindness, mindfulness, and recognizing that our imperfections are exactly what connects us to the rest of humanity.
Michelle Chalfant discusses strategies to grown in connecting to your inherent worth, setting healthy boundaries, advocating for your needs in a healthy manner, and facing the truth of your experience.
Pia Mellody on the History of the Meadows
Pia talks about her story and what prompted her to create the Post-Induction Therapy Model.
Pia Mellody explains the PIT Model
Pia Mellody takes a deep dive into her model of developmental immaturity and explains how understanding our childhood trauma can help us become more functional adults.
Unsure about whether or not addiction is a disease? This video explores what happens in the brain when addiction is present in a manner that is easy to understand and accessible.